In 2007, researchers Bodenmann, Ledermann, and Bradbury were studying what stress can do to marriages. And, they were specifically interested in a certain kind of stress–the kind most toxic to marriages.
Is it normal for your spouse to feel jealous even if you haven’t done anything wrong? How do you respond to them when they are jealous? And how do you best respond to the jealousy that can crop up in your own heart sometimes? In this two-part blog post, I tackle these tricky issues.Read Part 1 of This Post
Is it normal for your spouse to feel jealous sometimes even when you’ve always done the right and honorable thing by them? How do you respond to them when they are jealous? And how do you best respond to the jealousy that can crop up in your own heart sometimes? In this two-part blog post, I tackle these tricky issues.
forward movement will usually happen because of something you hear, not because of something you say. Jonathan HooverClick to tweet
I have written in my books and on this blog about the fact that when conversations turn sharp, it usually ends in two people talking (sometimes very loudly) and no one listening. Arguments and heated exchanges often do nothing to move the ball down the field, and do far too much to elevate your heart rate, blood pressure, and overall stress level. And what’s the point of that? Read More
Here are a few ways to safeguard the heart of your relationship, and avoid a November marriage meltdown. Read More
He was undeniably brilliant, with a mind that seemed to be custom-built for the industrial age. He was at once an inventor, designer, and production engineer. If he hadn’t been a dreamer as well, he might have ended up just another cog in the fast-growing machine of industry. But in the early days of Ford’s adult life, he did have a dream. A big one.
When not at work, he spent endless hours in a little garage in which he and a few friends endlessly tinkered and experimented with the technologies they believed could combine to create a working prototype vehicle. In those days, Ford was just another hobbyist, playing around with the dream of building a car. He was not the billionaire captain of industry that we now think of when we think of Ford. He was not internationally respected as a pioneer of mechanics. He was just a man spending his evening hours mucking around in oil and grease, trying out ideas that might or might not lead to something. Read More
“Forgive and forget” may be one of the most unfortunate phrases that has somehow seeped into our cultural dialogue. It makes forgiving someone a very difficult (and potentially risky) task. It asks the person who was harmed or betrayed to somehow make believe that one of the most terrible moments in their life didn’t happen. In essence, to “forgive and forget” means that the offended party should somehow mentally undo the damage the other person has done. Not only is this virtually impossible, it is unwise. Read More
An hour later, you wake up mid-procedure. You’re in intense pain and you expect the surgeon to do something about it… right now. You scream at him to do something.
Oblivious, and holding your spleen in his hands, he responds: “Gee, I don’t think you’re really awake.” Read More
She asks her dad if she can have the ice cream sandwich. He, not being quite as aware of the potential nutritional apocalypse, and trying not to be distracted from the play action, says yes. Read More