That’s what I saw on the lock screen of my phone among the list of subject lines of emails I’d missed earlier that day.
10,000 what!?! I could just imagine that some terrible person had hi-jacked my amazon account, picked an outrageously expensive item, and ordered 10,000. What on earth was I in for?
I could only imagine the doorbell ringing with my UPS delivery of 10,000 Apple watches, 10,000 bluetooth shower speakers, or 10,000 pairs of women’s yoga pants… I had already decided to call Amazon and straighten this out. “I didn’t order this stuff and I can’t afford to pay for it!” I would say.
All these thoughts flashed through my mind while I nervously fumbled around trying to unlock my phone to read the entire email. When I finally unlocked the screen, what I read made me smile in relief. The message expressed Amazon’s appreciation for my order of “10,000 Reasons,” a digital music file of Matt Redman’s contemporary Christian hit. I’d forgotten that I’d purchased the song the previous evening. In case you’re not familiar with the song, it has a line that speaks of the 10,000 reasons our hearts should find to bless the Lord.
The only problem was that in replacing the disposal, I learned that other parts of our under-sink plumbing needed replacing as well. Shut-off valves were corroded and non-functioning. When I replaced those, the old supply lines no longer fit. Thus, new lines became part of the project. Read More
It was absolutely clear that they would have to redirect water away from the shallower areas of the downtown waterway. They devised a plan with dams and other man-made systems to redirect the water. But there was still the question of what to do with the river bend in the heart of downtown San Antonio. Two different ideas were getting traction. One group of people felt that they should simply drain that body of water, create a drainage ditch in its place, and pave a street above it. For quite a while, this was the plan.
Before this event, I had a few brief phone conversations with Les, but when they came to town, it was the first time I really had a chance to talk with them at any length. Wendy and I agreed to meet them for dinner before the event, and I was nervous. Les and Leslie are New York Times best-selling authors. They have spent their entire life as top-level experts in the field of couples work. What do you talk about over dinner with best-selling authors?
In the talk I presented the truth that there are two kinds of people in this world—“position people” and “product people.” It’s important to understand the difference between these two groups, because you will encounter both in your daily life.
The reason that statement has stayed with me is that I realize that perhaps the hardest part of any kind of leadership is inspiring others to follow. Whether your leadership role is as a parent, a tee-ball coach, a CEO of a major corporation, all of the above, or something else, there is one concept that has the potential to catapult your outcomes to the next level.
It’s a truth many leaders ignore.
This blog post isn’t about the Boundaries book. I hope you own it, or have access to it and can learn what’s presented there. This blog post is about the backlash you should expect when you set a boundary with someone. Whether the person to which you must say no is 2 years old or 80, there is a fairly predictable response that you should expect and know how to handle. Read More
But difficult discussions are a part of life. Relationships come pre-installed with tension… that’s part of living in a broken world. As a result, we need to have a strategy for these kinds of conversations. We need a way of being confident in ourselves so that we can talk about the challenges that threaten relationships. Not dealing with the tension is not an option. That’s how relationships fall apart. Read More