Of course, as your kid starts becoming an adult, it might seem “not cool” to set bedtime guidelines. But, let’s face it, most of us have given up on being a “cool” parent some time ago.
This is very important for those of us who parent, coach, lead teams, supervise, hire, fire, or are in any other type of authority role. We need to be able to quickly recognize the difference between these life patterns, because they massively impact the future of our families, teams, and organizations. Read More
He was undeniably brilliant, with a mind that seemed to be custom-built for the industrial age. He was at once an inventor, designer, and production engineer. If he hadn’t been a dreamer as well, he might have ended up just another cog in the fast-growing machine of industry. But in the early days of Ford’s adult life, he did have a dream. A big one.
When not at work, he spent endless hours in a little garage in which he and a few friends endlessly tinkered and experimented with the technologies they believed could combine to create a working prototype vehicle. In those days, Ford was just another hobbyist, playing around with the dream of building a car. He was not the billionaire captain of industry that we now think of when we think of Ford. He was not internationally respected as a pioneer of mechanics. He was just a man spending his evening hours mucking around in oil and grease, trying out ideas that might or might not lead to something. Read More
She asks her dad if she can have the ice cream sandwich. He, not being quite as aware of the potential nutritional apocalypse, and trying not to be distracted from the play action, says yes. Read More
It turns out that my daughter had gone to her room, retrieved a craft that she had completed earlier in the day, brought it upstairs where I was watching TV, stood well within my line of site, said “Hey dad…” two times, and the truth is I didn’t hear her. I didn’t even see her. I was too absorbed in what I was watching. Read More
Hours later you’re watching one of your favorite shows, having completely forgotten your promise to contribute to the household chores and you hear the ominous sound of the vacuum cleaner turning on. You also hear the theme song from Jaws at the same time—but that might just be in your head.
You jump up and head for the dishwasher… at least if you stack that quickly, you will have kept 50% of your promise. But, alas, she has stacked it already. Oh yeah; she’s that good.
You know that there will be some tension now because of this. “You aren’t helping”… whatever that means. Read More
I’m 33, which means I’m just old enough to have watched the social media craze evolve from a clumsy and somewhat disorganized venture to a multi-billion dollar, technically mind-boggling machine. And perhaps, like me, you’re growing just a bit wary of what the long-term effects of this will be.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with social media, I maintain pages on both Facebook and Twitter, but like any communication and entertainment platform, there are risks. I could go into detail here, talking about the kinds of outcomes I’ve seen in those who’ve not set healthy limits with social media… outcomes like social media addiction, reduced work effectiveness, strained family relationships, diminished drive, disconnection from friends… and, of course, the list goes on. But you already know this. And I won’t bore you with more details and specifics. The research is certainly out there if you’re interested.
The key question is: if you choose to engage with social media, as most of us will, how can you maintain healthy boundaries so that you don’t find yourself telling a computer you want your life back? Here are a few thoughts about how you can do that. Read More