This is very important for those of us who parent, coach, lead teams, supervise, hire, fire, or are in any other type of authority role. We need to be able to quickly recognize the difference between these life patterns, because they massively impact the future of our families, teams, and organizations. Read More
He was undeniably brilliant, with a mind that seemed to be custom-built for the industrial age. He was at once an inventor, designer, and production engineer. If he hadn’t been a dreamer as well, he might have ended up just another cog in the fast-growing machine of industry. But in the early days of Ford’s adult life, he did have a dream. A big one.
When not at work, he spent endless hours in a little garage in which he and a few friends endlessly tinkered and experimented with the technologies they believed could combine to create a working prototype vehicle. In those days, Ford was just another hobbyist, playing around with the dream of building a car. He was not the billionaire captain of industry that we now think of when we think of Ford. He was not internationally respected as a pioneer of mechanics. He was just a man spending his evening hours mucking around in oil and grease, trying out ideas that might or might not lead to something. Read More
As I looked in my rear view mirror, I could see a lady in the minivan motioning for me to move into what she obviously thought was a turning lane. It wasn’t. I had a double yellow line, and if I’d moved into the lane she was suggesting, I might have been in the path of oncoming traffic.
I quickly responded by glaring into the rear view mirror and giving this lady my best “Look lady, I’m following the laws of the road. If you don’t like waiting on me to turn, why don’t you just go around?” face. Somehow I don’t think she got the message. She responded with her best “You’re an idiot” face.
This, of course, happened within the span of just a few seconds. Very quickly, the cross lane cleared and I was able to turn into the parking lot and park.
What surprised me was how hard it was to let those few seconds go. What if that lady did think I was an idiot? I thought.
“Forgive and forget” may be one of the most unfortunate phrases that has somehow seeped into our cultural dialogue. It makes forgiving someone a very difficult (and potentially risky) task. It asks the person who was harmed or betrayed to somehow make believe that one of the most terrible moments in their life didn’t happen. In essence, to “forgive and forget” means that the offended party should somehow mentally undo the damage the other person has done. Not only is this virtually impossible, it is unwise. Read More
An hour later, you wake up mid-procedure. You’re in intense pain and you expect the surgeon to do something about it… right now. You scream at him to do something.
Oblivious, and holding your spleen in his hands, he responds: “Gee, I don’t think you’re really awake.” Read More
She asks her dad if she can have the ice cream sandwich. He, not being quite as aware of the potential nutritional apocalypse, and trying not to be distracted from the play action, says yes. Read More