This is very important for those of us who parent, coach, lead teams, supervise, hire, fire, or are in any other type of authority role. We need to be able to quickly recognize the difference between these life patterns, because they massively impact the future of our families, teams, and organizations. Read More
This article is quite a bit different from the posts I normally write. I usually blog about marriage, leadership, family issues, or personal growth; current events commentary isn’t exactly my gig. But when I started the blog, I mentioned that I would also talk about “life challenges”. And this post addresses something that is a personal challenge for me. As a husband, dad, and pastor, I’ve grown increasingly concerned by our government’s tendency to punish those who live by traditional views of gender and sexuality. And when I read Target’s recent statement about bathroom usage, I decided it was time to address the issue on the blog. This post represents my opinion, and I have tried diligently to keep the ideas and wording thoughtful, balanced, and graciously stated.
Religious freedom is a big issue right now. Watchdog groups on both sides of the issue spend tireless hours trying to make sure their side of the debate is protected. Those who feel that religion has no place in public discourse or the “secular” world have, for instance, fought hard to remove the Ten Commandments from government related spaces, even if the display in question is considered a piece of artwork or a historical monument. They continually pursue the idea that public schools and universities should be religion-free zones, and one by one, any remaining vestiges of faith-based life have been pulled from the education system. They suggest removal of the reference to God in the Pledge of Allegiance, the motto “In God We Trust” on American coinage, and the phrase “so help me, God” in many public oaths. On the far opposite side, I sometimes meet individuals who feel strongly that religion–their religion–should be embedded in the government’s gear work. I recently read a post on social media from an individual who insisted that it was time for our government to start “legislating from the Bible.”
I suggest that it’s important for all of us to take a balanced and pragmatic look at the issue before we go too far in either direction. Read More
He was undeniably brilliant, with a mind that seemed to be custom-built for the industrial age. He was at once an inventor, designer, and production engineer. If he hadn’t been a dreamer as well, he might have ended up just another cog in the fast-growing machine of industry. But in the early days of Ford’s adult life, he did have a dream. A big one.
When not at work, he spent endless hours in a little garage in which he and a few friends endlessly tinkered and experimented with the technologies they believed could combine to create a working prototype vehicle. In those days, Ford was just another hobbyist, playing around with the dream of building a car. He was not the billionaire captain of industry that we now think of when we think of Ford. He was not internationally respected as a pioneer of mechanics. He was just a man spending his evening hours mucking around in oil and grease, trying out ideas that might or might not lead to something. Read More
As I looked in my rear view mirror, I could see a lady in the minivan motioning for me to move into what she obviously thought was a turning lane. It wasn’t. I had a double yellow line, and if I’d moved into the lane she was suggesting, I might have been in the path of oncoming traffic.
I quickly responded by glaring into the rear view mirror and giving this lady my best “Look lady, I’m following the laws of the road. If you don’t like waiting on me to turn, why don’t you just go around?” face. Somehow I don’t think she got the message. She responded with her best “You’re an idiot” face.
This, of course, happened within the span of just a few seconds. Very quickly, the cross lane cleared and I was able to turn into the parking lot and park.
What surprised me was how hard it was to let those few seconds go. What if that lady did think I was an idiot? I thought.
“Forgive and forget” may be one of the most unfortunate phrases that has somehow seeped into our cultural dialogue. It makes forgiving someone a very difficult (and potentially risky) task. It asks the person who was harmed or betrayed to somehow make believe that one of the most terrible moments in their life didn’t happen. In essence, to “forgive and forget” means that the offended party should somehow mentally undo the damage the other person has done. Not only is this virtually impossible, it is unwise. Read More